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Two Steps Forward, One Step Back.

January 4, 2016All Women Are Crazy, Man TBD, Online Dating, Overshare?, Times when I'm awkward30withCats

UPDATE: I found a video on Buzzfeed that perfectly demonstrates how I feel about this situation.

So as I move forward in the search for Man TBD, I’ve taken a detour and I’ve gone on some decent first dates. Two of the gentlemen won’t be on the dance card anymore–one with a text break-it-off (I was recipient, but feeling was mutual so it was perfect!) and one with a technical ghosting from the guy (though I saw it coming and wasn’t invested so I don’t quite care). None of the dates have resulted in particularly interesting blog stories and the two that have remained on the roster are quite frankly so nice I can’t imagine I’d have the heart to put them on here. I guess unless one becomes the next former Man TBD and I’m wallowing.

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HALP!

January 2, 2016Advise me! HALP!, All Women Are Crazy, Behind the Times30withCats

I just realized that the final season of Downton Abbey starts tonight at 9! The problem is that I set up a dinner date with a gentleman at 7 AND I don’t have DVR. I feel like it may not be quite appropriate to ask a guy to move a date so I can watch a [spectacular] period soap opera. The struggle is real.

HALP!

What should I do?

UPDATE: I’ve decided to do nothing. He changed the venue from a restaurant I think is ok to a good Irish pub…. He’s also 6’7″….

Thanks for the advice friends!

UPDATE UPDATE! I mentioned being excited about the Downton premiere so he offered to move dinner earlier and he’s coming over to watch it with me. In the words of the wise Lady Grantham: “All life is a series of problems which we must try and solve.” Is Downton and chill a thing?

Twenty Sixteen – Day 1

January 1, 2016Good Eats!, This is 30, Times when I'm awkward30withCats

Happy New Year!

I ended up going to a friend’s place last night and had a great time playing games, talking, and laughing! Every time I have these experiences, I’m reminded how truly great it can be to be single–flexibility to hang out with the friends when the opportunity pops up at the last minute. No checking with someone else’s schedule just freedom to do what I want. I know a relationship doesn’t mean losing all that freedom, but it is an adjustment and I feel it’s important to try to enjoy myself no matter the circumstances.

Source: http://www.higherperspectives.com/ — Source: Higher Perspectives

Anyways, since I didn’t get to have Netflix and chill time with the cats last night, I made up for it today. I guess that’s not all I did. I had a coffee date (nothing to report just yet) and then I decided to eat all the unhealthy foods. Anti-resolution? I had a delicious cheeseburger and fries for lunch and Chinese food for dinner. To put it over the top, I ordered the only dish that could say: I’M A SINGLE PERSON WHO IS EATING HER FEELINGS. A pu pu platter for one. Those feelings can really be delicious.

Now I shall digest while watching TV and texting.

Breaking the Rules

December 31, 2015Creepers, Online Dating30withCats

Last Saturday, I broke a rule with somewhat hilarious consequences. A few weeks ago, I also ignored some initial warning signs with some troubling results. (Troubling in the sense that I don’t understand humanity).

A guy sent me a message through the dating website. It was a series of impersonal questions–I have a rule about impersonal messages from menfolk–to always ignore. Why? These men are likely sending the same message in bulk to many women without any thought… Hopefully, I don’t have to explain why that person who doesn’t interest me.

Anyways, one of his questions was “What is your pet peeve?” To which I responded (mostly in annoyance), “Impersonal messages from strangers on the Internet.” He laughed it off and I thought maybe he was an exception to my rule (You may be sensing a theme with that thought…. ).

He kept telling stories about accidentally being naked. They were odd and I kept trying to change the subject. I thought, well, maybe this guy is just strange and awkward and doesn’t know how to talk to women. After all, the stories weren’t sexual in nature, they were just about times when he had been caught naked. He claimed to be a teacher so he must be a somewhat ok person, right?

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